Meet the women of the book, “Make Your Mess Your Message”.
This week (November 23rd, 2021 2PM PST/ 5PM EST) I speak with Lilla Taylor (Chapter 30 – Removing A Title Can Allow Room For Grace), owner of Simply Rooted Yoga Studio which is located in Redding, California and Simply Meditation Podcast.
During our conversation, Lilla discusses her difficult childhood – with a focus on the troubling relationship she had with her father and how she has been able to move towards acceptance, understanding, and forgiveness. A perfect discussion to have as many of us are trying to navigate tough family relationships — especially during the upcoming holiday season.
Lilla’s 3 tools for navigating a difficult relationship with a family member:
- “Boundaries- really looking inward and feeling like, what do I need from this? And why am I feeling this way? So a lot of inner awareness.”
- “Taking a break when needed. My mom taught me this one because I’d get upset with my dad in certain areas. And she said, all you have to do, if you’re on the phone with him say, “You know what? I need a break. You know what? I’m going to come back to this later.” And then let them know you care about them and you’ll talk to them soon. Cause there’s nothing wrong with that – just because we love them and they’re close to us doesn’t mean we can’t take a minute to process that and then come back to them. “
- “And again, we use that tool of removing the title [of “dad”, “mom”, brother, “sister, etc,…], the expectation of what I’m thinking in my head they should be because of their title – because that’s usually when we get our feelings hurt – we start to think this they should be a certain way because of their title. But really that’s how we feel, that’s not how they are or who they are.”
Lilla can be found at:
Website: https://www.simplyrootedyoga.org/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/simplyrootedtm
instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lillamarieyoga/
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